4 Ways to Master Emotions

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Life may get hectic at time, for some, more frequently than not. But, that doesn’t have to be a constant nightmare, nor should you feel helpless. Perhaps people tend to get under your skin and you try your best to not lash out

In some cases it’s necessary, but, emotional reactions instead of critically thought-out solutions, can come with major consequences–even though you may have felt in the right! Using your emotions productively will save you stress, time, and you’ll achieve peace of mind

Though mastering emotions may sound like an easy task, don’t be fooled–it’s a challenge. But, like all challenges for self-improvement, it’s a test of your own willingness to better yourself. Notice the ‘will’ part in that word–it all depends on willpower!

This work pushes people on their path constantly, which is required for self-mastery. It’s not you versus anyone else, but, you mastering the “you” within. I know you’re eager to get into the meat of this article so lets not waste any more time



As a man thinketh, so shall he be – James Allen

If you haven’t read this essay, I suggest you do. This quote essentially covers how everyone creates their own unique reality based on their thoughts alone. Though affirmations can be spoken silently (in the mind) or verbally, words are essentially thoughts made physical

When communicating in general, it’s important to be aware of what you say, and how you say it–like good adults! Joking aside, your words not only affect your reality, but, can also influence the reality of others as well. It’s how you may have a friend who’s feeling down, and you being a good friend, you find a way to motivate them and boost their morale

Matthew 7:1 in the bible states: “Do not judge, or you too will be judged.”

This shows a metaphysical concept which explains that everything you see outside of you is just a reflection. This ties into the first Hermetic Law (Universal Law) of Mentalism, which states that all is mind

If all is mind, that means we exist in our own mental spheres, with our own unique reality. Everything in existence is within. So, each and every person we meet and interact with are just internal reflections. Someone that judges against another person is essentially judging themselves back

You’ll come across many rotten people of course, but, nobody’s perfect and majority of them are internally imbalanced with their own traumas. I’d think it best to not judge them in that aspect, but, don’t tolerate any mistreatment

When experiencing your own ups and downs, your emotions may fluctuate, but, you are always in control of how you choose to act. You may have a bad day, or, a string of bad days–however, you can be comfortable knowing that your inner happiness cannot be taken unless you allow it

That inner happiness is something you achieve on your own through discipline and reprogramming of the mind. Specifically not allowing any negative thoughts to fester

Any mishaps that happen along your day is just a bump in the road. The mindset to have when going through anything is knowing you’ll always get out of whatever is happening. Remembering that your mind controls the universe–focusing only on problems is what you’ll manifest

Affirmations are a reminder that you’re always in control and anything outside of you cannot(and should not) dictate your reality. For techniques on how to use affirmations click here

The Breath

Breathing is essential for all who rely on oxygen to survive, so, it shouldn’t come to a surprise that proper breathing is an art that isn’t practiced by most. By proper, I mean slow deep breaths which doesn’t stop at your chest, but travels all the way down to your lower abdomen

It may take some time getting used to breathing that way if you’re accustomed to shallow breaths, but you’ll notice a big difference in the way your body and mind functions

The benefits of deep breathing include:

  • Lowering of blood pressure
  • Lowering heart rate
  • Reduces stress levels in the body
  • Helps with digestion

And that’s just to name a few, but, here’s a link to an article that goes more in depth

Asides from the health benefits, the reason this is on the list is for its connection to meditation. Deep breathing allows a person to slow down their heart rate, which helps them think clearly as opposed with stress

This method of breathing slows life down in general for those who feel like they can never catch a break. With no rest for contemplation, your mind will always be stressed and that can lead to emotional outbursts, clouded judgements, and rushed decisions

Deeply breathing aids in establishing focus and inner balance. With proper focus, you’ll be able to find a solution to any problem with tact and not be influenced by any reactionary emotions. Being the objective observer in a situation grounds you in the moment and aids in finding a solution

And you can practice by adding deep breaths to your diet!

The Bigger Picture

Building off the last section, a clear and focused mind will help expand awareness of any situation. With emotional control, you can focus on a more wholistic solution

You may notice minor problems throughout your day and still know that everything will be alright. A mind clear from negative thoughts and focused on uplifting ones, shifts situations in your favor no matter the extreme

Focusing all your energy on negative thoughts only attracts more negative thoughts! The answer to fixing this is to focus on solutions. Easy right? Shifting your mindset to focusing on positive thoughts/solutions will shift your reality as you desire it to be

The bigger picture in all of this is to realize that you are in control of how you perceive your own world. No person or thing can decide your reality for you unless you allow it

You may notice that I’m repeating certain phrases over and over, but, I assure you its for a reason. Pretty much to say that your life is in your hands and how you decide to move is in your control as well. The mind is the most powerful tool available to you, it’s worthwhile to master it!


Honesty is always the best policy, especially when being honest with yourself. When you gaze into your internal world, what do you see? Are there any remnants of the past that lingers in your thoughts? These are questions to ask yourself so that you can bring to light what lurks in the darkness

Dealing with your unconscious triggers is what occultists define as shadow work. It’s called a “shadow” because this symbolically represents any traumatic experiences or negative thoughts that are hidden in your ego. For instance, a situation that you haven’t quite gotten over and when brought up, causes you to become defensive

That defense mechanism is an aspect of your ego that attacks anyone that triggers it. Until you deal with that shadow, it’ll constantly reappear and reaffirm what you refuse to face. I’m not saying its easy work, but it is necessary if you wish to achieve inner balance

I’ll touch more into shadow work on a later post but, for now, what’s shared is the gist

I thank you all for reading and hope you got something you can take with you! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my blog to keep up with any new content. Any questions, comments, personal stories–leave them below!

As always, enjoy the rest of your day!

2 thoughts on “4 Ways to Master Emotions”

  1. J says:

    Great read!

    1. VFB says:

      Thank you! Glad you enjoyed !

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